Independent woman Pt. 1

At almost 32, I often catch myself analyzing my life. Thinkin’ about all the things I went through to be who I am today. Who I met along the way and added value to my life, who dissapointed me, the harsh childhood I had because of all the bullies, the health issues, my always complicated love life,.. And while thinkin’ about all those periods in my life, I often ask myself, if I had the chance to start all over again, would I change a thing? Believe it or not, the answer is no.

As a child the part with all the bullying sucked the most. I went through three stages: crying, fighting and the most efficient stage: the verbally kick back. FYI: wounds heal and once the scar fades away the incident is quickly forgotten. While words cut deeper and tear them apart on a whole other level. This being said, I prefer no bullying at all. I can’t even believe bullying is still part of so many (young) people’s lives. When people ask me how I survived all the hurt, the heartbreaks, the dissapointments,… I only have one answer, I never stopped believing in myself and had one ultimate goal in mind: to be an indepent woman one day. And I mean independently in every possible sense of the word.

I kicked off my independency 3 years ago when I started blogging. To be honest, I didn’t know a lot of it at that time. I started because I wanted to share my love for fashion and my thoughts. Never ever did I expect to earn money with it, to affect others and/or to work with all the brands I already did. One of the most beautiful parts of blogging to me is the freedom to (re)present a brand the way I think it will appeal my readers the most.

A second step to my goal to independency was the choice to raise my kids on my own, as a single mom. I moved into my new place by the end of 2017, such a huge step! I still remember our first night at our new home, the boys and I were so excited! What I didn’t realise at that time was that moving out was the easiest part.. The following months were quite hard, a lot of tears have been shed. Let’s call 2018 my hardest year to date, but I needed it to kick off 2019 in a positive way and with lots of new goals.

I gratuated as fashion stylist last summer and combine blogging and styling since then. Showcasing your own style is one thing, help others find their personal style by thinkin’ outside of the box, another. This in combination with working as an hostess at Belgium’s best known events, brings me to my financial independency. Thankful I’m able to live my life this way, to make my own decisions and to fill in my agenda the way I want. This makes my life an adventure, day after day.

If you have been through a rough time or are still in it, never stop believing and hold on to that one dream and goal. Work towards it. I did it, why wouldn’t you? I absolutely believe in you and I’m rooting for you! You can do it, let’s meet at the top! XXX, Eva


  1. dani
    March 17, 2019 / 6:30 pm

    This is beautiful, inspiring and encouraging. I am blogging for 8 months now and I have not been paid to do it. I am willing to work towards making my blog as my sole source of income too. Through you, I know that it is possible.

  2. March 18, 2019 / 8:03 am

    Helemaal niet gek dat je af en toe eens terug kijkt naar wat je doet en hebt gedaan en door je jeugd word je gevormd. Ik ben ook op gestaan sinds ik blog en merk hoe goed me dit doet. Ik hoop dat 2019 je brengt waar je op hoopt.

  3. March 18, 2019 / 8:06 am

    Inspirerende woorden voor de maandagochtend! Mooi om te lezen waar je nu door wilskracht bent gekomen

  4. March 18, 2019 / 11:58 am

    Goed om te lezen hoe je ergens bent gekomen. Ook mooi om daar eens op terug te kijken!

  5. March 18, 2019 / 4:34 pm

    Altijd goed om door te gaan om je doel te proberen te halen. Alleen bij zetten van doelen kan je gelukkiger mens worden

  6. March 18, 2019 / 9:00 pm

    Yes! You go gril!! Let’s meet at the top.:) At the moment i’m taking a course to become a Virtual Assistant. It takes up a lot of time and energy, but i love doing it!

  7. March 20, 2019 / 10:57 am

    Jeetje, respect hoor! Leuk om te lezen hoe je ergens bent gekomen! Ik werk de laatste twee/drie jaar hard aan mezelf en toekomst en dat gaat me tot nu toe redelijk goed af.

  8. March 20, 2019 / 5:45 pm

    Heel goed om even onder de aandacht te brengen: gewoon doorgaan en stop niet met dromen. Dat laatste is sowieso nooit een goed idee.

  9. Eunice Abe
    March 23, 2019 / 7:55 pm

    You are a strong woman! Well done and I wish you many more successes, accomplishments on your journey 🙂

  10. Sofie Cuipers
    May 20, 2019 / 5:51 pm

    Zalig Eva. Jouw teksten raken en laten me de kant van jou zien die ik soms terugvind in mezelf. Lots of love, nu en toen, uw buddy van de fashion les ( begin ) Sofie 💋 #strongwoman #inspiration

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